Guys World

Meeting your girlfriend’s parents for the first time is a herculean task, probably because they are the only ones who love your girl more than you do. Meeting her Parents is such a vital clog in your relationship as your future with her depends on it. When you fix a meeting with them, it is essential that you live up to their expectations.

So if it’s your first tryst with your girlfriend’s parents, remember the following indicators:-

First impression is the last impression

This applies each time you meet new set of people in life. If your first impression was impressive, you will always be remembered as the ‘good’ guy. When you are out to meet your girl’s mum & dad, this becomes more important. No parents would want their son-in-law to be ill-mannered, uncultured or unhygenic, so make sure you don’t behave or show up like one. Dress well according to what they like. Be clean shaven or keep your beard trimmed. Clip your nails, trim your nose hair, use a mouthwash and apply deodrant. Make sure you shoes are polished and your socks not smelly or with holes. Do not smoke, spit, pick your nose or scratch your butt in front of them.

Do not panic

Many guys panic when they are meet their girlfriend’s parents.  Having butterflies in the stomach is completely normal. It might be because: Your girl has done the groundwork to elevate their expectations about you.  You fear to match the hype created. Take a deep breath and just calm down, they are not going to kick you out. Follow the basic rules of polite conversation like smile, make eye contact and listen. Do not blabber unnecessarily. Answer all of their questions confidently and honestly. Do not keep looking at your watch as that may seem rude to them. If they have pets that make you uncomfortable, gently tell them of your apprehension and they will surely understand and make sure the pets do not come next to you.

Show them that you’re gentlemen

Approach and talk to them with respect. Thank them when you are offered something to drink or eat. Ask them how they are doing and make random small talks. Find out beforehand their interests and speak to on those topics. Tell them all about yourself and your present situations and future plans. Be modest and do not exaggerate on any of your achievements. If you are meeting at a restaurant then make sure to pay the bill yourself. In addition to dressing like a gentleman, talk like a gentleman too.

Know your limits where to stop

Do not overdo anything as it will look fake. If you pull the string too hard, it will break . Keep things as simple as possible. When you are striking a conversation with her parents, do not try to go into topics (like politics, religion) that can be debatable. If you are cross-cultural lovers, do not bring in the sensitive religious topics in the conversation. Always be mindful that your first meeting with her parents will decide the course of your relationship. If it’s the first time then it’s best not to voice your opinions strongly. It is best to “keep saying yes” to everything that her parents say. Also, do not indulge in PDAs with your girlfriend in front of her parents.

Explain your future after marriage

The thing that every parent looks for in their future son-in-law is his ability to keep their daughter happy.  All parents expect a son in law who is financially settled and who has a well planned future plan. After all, they are offering their beloved daughter. Win their trust and show them that you are perfect for her. If you are able to impress her parents, the next stop for your relationship is definitely the nuptial knot.